One of the hardest things about discovering my DNA reality is that I often feel very alone in my experience. Yes, I can talk to my husband or friend about it, but it isn’t easy to understand just how all encompassing it can be if you haven’t experienced it yourself. The Facebook support groups have been a tremendous help in getting emotional support from folks who know what it is like and are going through similar experiences themselves. While everyone has a unique twist to each story, the underlying emotions of confusion, betrayal, and loss of identity are all the same. I’ve been surprised at how many people have been impacted by situations such as mine. I often wonder if it is because I am so attuned to it or if it really is becoming that much more common with the prevalence of DNA testing.
I’ve come across 2 articles in the past week that I wanted to share because they resonated with me. The authors have very different stories and approaches (and very different writing styles) but the emotions behind them are the same.
Bastard (The Cut) in which Elizabeth Wurtzel talks about her relationship with the man she would later find out was her biological father.
How a DNA Testing Kit Revealed a Family Secret Hidden for 54 Years (Time) in which the author and novelist Dani Shapiro tells her story about finding out that her biological father was actually a sperm donor. She has written a book about her experience, too which will be released in 2 weeks.
I’ll also add these links to the Resources page.