Ever since I found out the truth 2 years ago, I’ve struggled with how to tell my children. Initially it was because I wasn’t sure they would actually understand. And, it was hard to imagine telling them how I felt and what it all meant when I wasn’t sure of that myself. So, after 2 years of searching for answers and seeing an amazing therapist, I felt as though I was in a healthy place about it to have the conversation. I came to learn that it was easier said than done. We have a fairly busy schedule, and I didn’t want the conversation to feel rushed or the girls to feel that they didn’t have time to process it. So when July 4th came and our only plan was to hang out at the pool and have the MIL over in the afternoon, I knew I had the perfect opportunity.
I can’t have imagined a better reaction from them. They asked thoughtful questions and had such kind things to say. They were most surprised that C (bio-dad) didn’t respond to me/didn’t want to know me or us. I explained to them that he didn’t know us, wasn’t rejecting us, was rejecting the idea of us. My youngest (10) asked to see a photo of him when I mentioned that I finally knew where I got my nose. I showed her his facebook profile pic, and she thought my smile was the same too. Later in the day, my oldest (12) told me that she thought I was brave for putting myself out there to find him and to reach out to him. My youngest wrote me a note, “Your (sic) amazing and the best mother and your life should be as great as you are. I love you so much and everyone else should too. PS. Your (sic) still a great mom even tho (sic) u (sic) won’t let me have more ipad time.”
How lucky am I?