My parents are coming to visit us next month, and I’m not sure how I feel about it. I haven’t seen them since I was down south for my aunt’s funeral last year. Prior to that, I had only seen them one other time since I found out the truth. My parents are of the school of thought that if they don’t talk about something, it didn’t happen. They have lived a life of denial for the past 40+ years, so they’ve gotten really good at it. I don’t know why I should hope or expect for them to change in 2 years when they haven’t indicated that they want to or think that they need to change at all.
They’re only coming to town for 3 days/2 nights, so I’m torn as to whether I try to push for some closure or if I play their game and just let the kids enjoy their time with their grandparents. I keep going back and forth in my mind. On the one hand, my kids haven’t seen them in almost 2 years…however flawed they are, I do think it’s important for my kids to have a relationship with them. On the other hand, I am tired of living life in denial. Hopefully I will get some clarity in the next couple of weeks.