It’s been a year since I’ve been in touch with my sister, B, and I have been so happy to get to know her. We have supported each other through the craziness of the pandemic and have even had family Among Us games over winter break. We text several times a week with the mundane as well as deeper, more intense text “conversations.” She confronted her (our) dad in late summer, telling him that if he didn’t tell her mom about me, then she would. He did tell her, but they both decided no one else in the family needed to know. B tried to convince them that it was going to come out anyway and didn’t they want to control the message? They did not. There is so much denial by the “adults” in my story, it is hard to believe.
Now I feel like I am in a tough spot. I have so enjoyed getting to know B and her family. But I would like to meet/know my other 3 siblings. I am not concerned about C getting mad at me, he made his choice, but he doesn’t get to make mine. My concern is for B. I am worried about how the other siblings will feel once they know she has known about me for a year. I know she has a complicated relationship with 1 or 2 of them already. How do I balance my lovely relationship with B with my desire to know, to continue to figure things out? I suppose my goal in writing this post was to figure it out….I know I need to talk to B, but I am not sure how to approach the conversation.